Earlier today, I published a post about making friends with ADHD/ADD. You won’t find a lot on this website about school-age children–an intentional decision on my part. There is an abundance of resources about what to do after a diagnosis. This is about prevention. Evidence is mounting that there may be a lot you can do to minimize your chances of having to use those resources. It makes sense, actually. If you know anything about genetic expression, you know that our DNA adapts for survival. That means that eggs and sperm have learned things even before they meet up. They might already be genetically wired with alerts for fear, danger, and anxiety. Even if that is the case, even if you have had a rough go of life in your early years, that doesn’t mean your children will be doomed to repeat the pain you experienced.
Parent anxiety during the 266 days before the arrival of your newborn is something over which you have some control. If you realize that you are stressed, anxious, and are dealing with your own past issues, there has never been a better time for you to seek care, counseling, support, and to heal yourself the best you can. Raising your baby well can start even before you decide you want a baby. Be happy. Take care of yourself. If necessary, be the parent to yourself that you always wished you’d had. Hope lives.
I am not a licensed therapist and will never claim to be such. I am just a new retiree from the world of education, with the benefit of a lifetime of experience and a spaghetti-brain full of interconnected information (and a laptop!). Most importantly, I care.